Written by Daniel Uduh

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A single parent is anyone who trains a child or children alone without the presence or assistance of a spouse. Several circumstances can lead to being a single parent. These include break-up, divorce, adoption, abandonment, and even death of one’s spouse. Being a single parent is a very painful and difficult experience, even though it is not the end of the world for anyone. Among these circumstances leading to being single, the one that has a chance of remarrying is the one whose spouse got separated from via death, otherwise known as a widow or widower. This is not the case for a single parent who became single as a result of the breakup, divorce, adoption, and abandonment which appears to be tougher to bear. Single parents found in this net may not wish to remarry and this is why.

1. Fear of the past

The story that led to becoming a single parent always leave bad memories behind. Once in a while there tends to be a memory flashback of how it all started and how it all ended. This flashback makes it difficult for a single parent to take a bold step into another relationship leading to marriage. A single parent would rather prefer having someone as a friend he or she can lean on at every pressing times, than going to be getting stuck in another marriage.

2. Lack of trust

They find it very difficult to trust the word “love”. As soon as they hear someone tell them about love, it immediately takes them back the memory lane, thus making them lose trust in the person.

3. Number of children

It is quite easy for a single parent to opt to get into a new marriage relationship when the offspring from the former is just one or two. This is not the case when the offspring is more than that. Knowing fully well that the new spouse-to-be definitely will be glad to have his or her own child, makes it complex to incorporate the already existing large number of kids to the ones to be born later. This makes remarrying difficult even when it appears that a new door for remarrying has been open to such spouses.

4. Family acceptance

Most families would criticize the idea of marrying a single parent especially when the person who is initiating the relationship is not a single parent. They would like want to know why a single parent should be the only choice their child would have in this world of many women.

5. Maltreatment of children

Over sixty percent of stepmothers and stepfathers are known for maltreating their stepchildren. It is not a new situation. The tolerance they give to their children, they cannot give to their stepchildren. This makes it also difficult for a single spouse to want to get involved.

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