By Daniel Uduh

In life, people do things for diverse reasons. Sometimes these reasons can be understood without them saying a word, and can also be misunderstood most often. This is a very big challenge people face every day in relationships, family, offices, and in society. It is a challenge because, as soon as this misunderstanding sets in at any point, it becomes very difficult to handle any further situation. This is one reason why in policing there is an investigation department whose responsibility is to make proper findings on the happenings of any case that needs to be investigated.

As a father, you got to observe a new behavior lately from your lovely wife and it is beginning to make you wonder what the reason might be. You are right. There is a reason for her action and you need to find out so as to know how you can help her sort things out. Waiting for her to come to tell you might not be feasible. You need to let her know your observations about her. Also, as a partner, be it a husband/wife relationship or mere friendship, you also need to know. Knowing the cause of her sudden change will be helpful in finding a solution to the problem. Sometimes, she might refuse to let the cat out of the bag, but psychologically, you can help her say it by pointing out things you believe to be the problem. This has a way of letting her say it without any further hesitation. Below are the very possible reasons why she all of a sudden started refusing to confide things in you.

#1. She is scared of you

It will surprise you to know that you might be the reason why she stops telling you nothing. She is used to seeing you as a friend and reveals everything about herself to you but ends up hearing all she had said from someone she has not sat down with before. She also might have discovered that as soon as she tells you anything private, you will definitely use it as a weapon of attack on her anytime there is a little misunderstanding between you both. This can be terrifying most often and makes people doubt the reality of their relationship with family and friends.

#2. She doesn’t want to be criticized

People most often tell us things because they need a solution or a compliment. Sometimes they would not get worried about been criticized as long as they get a solution or compliment at the end. This is where constructive criticism comes in. When she knows she is bound to be criticized, no matter how she presents her case to you as father or friend, she will have no other option than to deal with it herself without letting anyone know about it. This is why you need to let her believe in you and even your criticism by showing her you really care.

#3. She doesn’t want to be misunderstood

The happenings of yesterday are making her feel she will be considered as trying to repeat it again, whereas this is not the case this time. She has been misunderstood severally. Starting from her choices, decisions, gestures, lifestyle, etc. And as it stands, she is not sure of being seen as one who knows what she is doing and so, she is now seeing secrecy as to her only place of solace from all forms of misunderstanding.

#4. She is getting involved

This is usually the conclusion most times, which sometimes appears to be true. This is because people generally believe that evildoers like carrying out their activities in the secret. This might be one of the reasons why she is now hiding things from you. Maybe she has started getting herself into a new relationship that she would not want you to know about. She believes getting too close might let her say it unknowingly. She already knows the implications of you getting to know about it. She can’t face it. She just has to let the sleeping dog lie.

#5. She is craving for her privacy

She just realized she is been given too much monitoring and attention and would want it to stop. From her age, she believes she is matured enough to have her life to live without anyone interfering. Most times this kind of thought comes to the mind when someone is beginning to have this feeling of being stalked by a partner or parent, even when the stalking might be borne out of love and concern for the safety of the person. She really might not see it from your own point of view, because at the moment all she needs is a little space and the chance to make her own decisions, mistakes, success, losses, gains, and every other experience she feels she has not gotten. She believes this will make her feel, not just good, but fulfilled. At this point, you just have to let her be, but still, be ready to be by her side if anything goes wrong along the line. She is still part of the family, no matter what.

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